So. A parenting post. Just a quickie one though, and I would love your thoughts.
Lately I've been working my hardest to keep to the Positive Parenting path, and yes, failing as much as I succeed. But in the quiet calm moments, I can see the immense value in parenting this way. I can see her glow grow, under the gentle guidance and unconditional love of her parents. And I see it diminish just as quickly when she is rebuked. When sharp, not gentle words are used.
I'm constantly amazed at how quickly the mood can change with this quick shift in awareness. If I give myself a beat to think about how I want to speak to her, to reframe a sentence that would have invariably caused a reactive response, I can easily divert a tantrum. Amazing! She might appear to be a feisty little tiger sometimes, but there's a glowing, sunshine baby under all that glower and growl, I promise.
I hit obstacles when we are out in the public. When others speak to her with a different tone. I watch the walls close up, frustration and tears set in. I would love to find a gentle way to let others know, there is a better way to speak to children. Sarcastic, gruff and angry words work in the same way as pressing your finger into a sea anemone. Not that I'm any kind of expert, or a prime example of Positive Parenting. I'm still just learning too. And I'm also very guilty of falling into the trap of parenting how I think people are expecting me to parent, when there are others watching. I want to change that too.
What are your thoughts? Do you practice Positive Parenting? Do you have any great pieces of advice for practicing it (and encouraging others to also) outside the home?
p.s. photos taken yesterday at my dad's farm, while we watched a gigantic tree being felled.
Joining in with Miriam at Create Hope Inspire.